A scripture that often comes to my mind in raising children is "...and ye will not suffer (allow) your children that they go hungry, or naked; neither will ye suffer that they transgress the laws of God, and fight and quarrel one with another, and serve the devil, who is that master of sin, or who is the evil spirit which hath been spoken of by our fathers, he being an enemy to all righteousness. BUT.... ye WILL teach them to walk in the ways of truth and soberness; ye will teach them to love one another, and to serve one another".
The first verse that tells us what not to allow and the second tells us how to do it. We must Teach them correct principles out of love, not force or coercion, and by way of example.
It's not an easy task and it requires much practice and discussion ---- and sincerity.
I've found that family prayer and scripture study help -- especially when the Spirit is present. It's not always on one of the 'planned' occassions when these sweet times occur (that the Spirit is truly with us and is strong). They are tender mercies of the Lord, I believe, to help us gain hope that someday, maybe, all our efforts will pay off.